Why marriage is a good thing for a balanced life
First and foremost thing, it is the most normal thing to do, is to marry. There is an innate desire to be married for some higher purpose. But, the same desire, if you do not use it for the purpose it is given, it can become a perversion, it can become a nasty thing. It can be very detrimental to your spiritual and emotional growth. So one should understand the desire for marriage is for the family to grow in love.
Marriage should means that the husband and wife, feel to be part and parcel of the one unit, both for the husband and for the wife the relationship should be that that can you depend on each other and give support to each other equally. A wife/husband on whom you can depend, is like having a mother/father, sister/brother, and child, you should both be everything to each other, this is not to say you are stuck like glue to each other, not at all, essentially we are talking about trust, companionship and respect, someone you can share all your feelings with, have fun with and most of all feel secure that you can depend on her/him. It’s is important that both should be equal, you should try and be understanding this is the marriage.
All of us have problems either of the of an emotional type or of an ego type (our sense of self and self importance can be overbearing). Now, when marriages takes place, mostly spontaneously, it will happen by the nature’s plan itself, that you will marry a person who is a complementary personality to you. Because, supposing you are an emotional type of person, and if you have a person who has strong feelings and emotions often in nature we will be attracted to someone who will compensate, and that’s how you make a good marriage. But, for that, one thing is very important: that you must share. You must share life, every bit of it, every moment of it. If you do not know how to share life, it’s going to be very, very difficult.
When it comes to love, how do we express our love? By sharing all of our joys and all of our pains, all of our problems. But to grow spiritually in a marriage, it’s a little more, quite a lot more, much more. Here you have to share the community. The marriage is not for individuals, not at all. If anybody has this feeling that the marriage is between two persons it’s a wrong idea. It is two communities, it can be two nations, it can be completely two universes. So, it is not to be enjoyed between yourself. If you are a good husband-wife to each other to make a good marriage that people respect and observe with a sense of admiration the marriage with children should set an example of kindness and compassion both within the marriage and to society.
That love should be enjoyed by everyone else, in the society, in the community. If you cannot do that, then you have not achieved a good marriage. It’s just an ordinary marriage as people have; it’s just nothing special about it. Such marriage should be able to give a chance for people to become great, to be great in society and with individuals, I’m not talking about impressing people I’m talking the opposite, where people feel comfortable in your presents and everyone is raised to a higher standard, level of community, family and country.
In married we should be are sharing their love equally with our partner, children and the community, society, then great people will be born from this.
So you are the heart as a man/woman, let the heart be the one has to cater for all the decissions. It’s the heart which is all-pervading, which is the real source of everything.
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